There is no step by step guide to Spirituality and if there is, I would not read it. There are tools and techniques that have proven effective and have help many thru their own journey and there is knowledge that comes with healing that some of us share to help others understand their own process, but the Spiritual Journey is different for each of us. We all have different experiences, and even if we did have the same experiences, we all perceived them differently, this makes each journey unique.
People love, laugh, cry, grief in different ways, no one feels the same way, and no one can perceive life quite the same way. This is evident when we observe sibling’s personality traits and coping mechanisms within the family and each of their perception of family gatherings and family traumas related behavior.
If we only see life experiences from our own perspective and nothing else, we limit our growth and without even knowing it we began to show those “toxic” traits that can develop into some more traumas for ourselves and those around us that are also affected by how we chose to perceive our world. But does this mean we are Toxic and should be left alone? It may be, but not really.
We need to start looking at the bigger picture and start to wonder why am I being so harsh with someone who has its own traumas? We get so easily confused that we think that to understand is to enable, that to support is to consent, that to forgive mean to stay and summit. When our own traumas come to front row, is even harder because our Ego cannot take it, it is kind of a survival mechanism. We need to come to terms with our own reality and human nature.
It is time to heal. The wounds of the past must remain in the past. It is NOT a time for regrets, it is a time for action. To accept ourselves and take charge of our healing. The world is changing and old patterns no longer serve us, we need to learn how to love life, and life is not what we have known it to be since our birth.
We tend to focus a lot on the past; although looking into the past for answers and healing is an important part of process, it is not everything and it is not necessarily or should be, the beginning for many.
We must recognize ourselves so that we can understand our own process. There are many ways to feel better, good and not be triggered so much by present situations without having to revisit the past (until we are ready to do so) if it still triggers in us behaviors that we are trying to change, addictions we are trying to let go, coping mechanisms that we are trying to erase, or emotions that alter our present way of feeling in a negative way. What we all must try at the very beginning is to understand that we are ALL more that this while accepting who we are at the present moment.
Accepting ourselves does NOT mean giving free rein to all our desires, forgetting about social responsibilities and it does not mean feeding our perversions; It DOES mean recognizing who we really are so that we can seek real solutions to our situations and find and see the possibilities that arise in front of us according to our true self needs.
We pressure ourselves even with Spirituality and that says a lot about the traumas that we already have integrated, and we must heal.
Asking or demanding ourselves to heal prevents true healing. Everything that is forced goes through a limiting and traumatic process, even if the result ends up being effective and positive; in turn, it causes the birth of new traumas and / or limitations.
There are some emotions and traumas that will require us to take a little walk through our past to really see what it was about and how things really happened but we must not rush, this eventually comes by default since by healing the "lighter" traumas, we awaken and develop the tools and emotional intelligence necessary to heal the heaviest traumas in our lives. Sometimes just by accepting our triggers, we take a huge step toward integrating our true selves. To ignore this part is to continue living in another time and moment that is not the present and is not what we need. When we accept our triggers for what they are, we can better understand that we are being triggered in that moment, and we can more easily distance ourselves from the emotional reaction and see that we are dragging along with something that does not belong to the present moment, then we can communicate better. That small shift in consciousness becomes the catalyst that propels us towards our healing. We do not always have to relive the moments, we should not blame ourselves or others, or judge, we do not always have to name everything or distribute responsibilities, sometimes it is just about living and taking the moment for what it is. The patterns in our lives continue to repeat themselves until we accept the teaching that that lesson has for us, which means that if we have not learned and healed yet, the chances that it is still being reflected in our lives are enormous, then why do we think that only by looking to the past is that we learn?
By living consciously in the moment is how we connect with the greatness of life, how we better understand and express ourselves and one way to cut the connection with the limitations and traumas of the present and future.
May this help someone
Blessed be Alchemist Eyes
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